Guest Blog: A view from 5 years past diagnosis (of sorts)

Liza Johnson is a multi-business owner and a member of MINT Business Club, run by Celebrate Difference founder Nicola.

We’re delighted to present our first blog post, written by Liza…

I am happier now than I have ever been.

I am more successful now than I have ever been. I am a more compassionate person now than I have ever been. But… that took a long time and the hardest part was all the forgiveness I needed to give myself for all the mistakes I made before I knew any better. The big problem with getting a diagnosis and doing the emotionally difficult work of therapy is that you see through the bullshit so friggin fast. This week I seem to be constantly dealing with other people’s consequences.

So here are four simple expectations I now have for dealing with people

Disclaimer: this has led to me having a very small circle of actual friends, and I am OK with that.

  1. If you don’t want to do the thing, just say so. I have no time or use for excuses. Also, I don’t care. If you don’t want to be there, I don’t want you there. Make space for someone who does. I will not be offended, just be honest
  2. If you make a mistake, own it. I understand, we all make mistakes and some are embarrassing. I won’t take the piss. Do not try and cover it up, I am smarter than I look and have a natural curiosity that puts Sherlock to shame.
  3. Communicate your needs!! I am so sick of people’s crappy communication. If you can’t communicate then I will not waste time on you. Sorry, this is probably the one that seems harsh but I am sick to death of people not answering messages or getting upset about crap I did not know about cos you did not tell me. If you fail to communicate I refer you to point 2, you made a mistake, apologise and we can all move on.
  4. I will not chase a friendship. I am happy to meet up or happy to let it slide. Honestly, I am really easygoing, but you set the pace and commitment and I promise you I can and will match your effort. So if I have not been in touch and you want to talk or spend time with me just send me a message.

That’s all. I wonder where the next 5 years will take me.